Why Not Me?

heather: “what's really caught my attention is the number of the really big women (my size and much larger) who have boyfriends, fiances and husbands. it's been a big shock to all my preconceptions that if i'm fat, i can't possibly be attractive to someone. especially enough to be in a long-term relationship. i've tried to rationalize it in my mind by saying "well, they were probably skinny when they got married and then they put on the weight". not very charitable of me, i know; but i've never pretended to be a better person than i am.”

What's really caught my attention is the number of the really geeky guys (same glasses and worse) who have girlfriends, fiancées and wives. It's been a big shock to all my preconceptions that if I'm a geek, I can't be attractive to someone. Especially enough to be in a long-term relationship. I've tried to rationalize it in my mind by saying "well, they were probably charismatic when they got married and then they put on those geeky glasses". Not very charitable of me, I know, but I've never pretended to be a better person than I am.

In other words, I guess it's a comforting to know that some women look at other women and think "why not me? I'm way better than her!", because I know I look at some guys and think "why not me? I'm way better than him!"